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domingo, 12 de fevereiro de 2012

Killing your sex life?

FEATURES

The strange side effects of happiness drug

AMINA BATYREVA | THE MCGILL DAILY

SHANNON PALUS

Published on February 9, 2012

“I mean, I’ve never even –,” Nicole* says, pausing, “ – had an orgasm.” She draws out the “a” in “had.”
We’re sitting on bar stools around the island of her parents’ kitchen, in a suburb of Philadelphia. This is where we sat senior year of high school – high, eating cookie dough, picking over hook-up prospects; where, in grade five, we ate grilled cheese and talked about the cutest boy in the class.
Now, it’s summer break, and we’re halfway through university. Nicole’s been struggling with depression, and until recently she’s been taking Effexor, a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI), the most commonly prescribed class of anti-depression medication. Though we’re still talking about sex, we’re tuned into something a little darker this time.
The listed side effects of taking SSRIs include: headache, dry mouth, anxiety, nausea, diarrhea, insomnia, sleeplessness. In 2000, a twelve year-old who had been on Paxil for seven months hung herself. So, to this day SSRIs in the United States carry a black-box warning about suicide. But lurking in the drug pamphlet of every SSRI, somewhere between the media-hyped worst-case scenarios, and the string of mundanities that typically fade after a week or two, are the words “sexual dysfunction.”
The list of conditions that fall under that term could hold its own in a fine-print contest. In no particular order: no or lower libido, delayed orgasm, anorgasmia (no orgasm), pleasureless orgasm, erectile dysfunction, problems with arousal (unspecified), and possibly genital anesthesia (in which genitals are no more useful for pleasure than, say, your arm is).
These side effects reportedly hit between 2 and 70 per cent of patients on SSRIs – the number varies study to study, depending on how the study is done. In studies where you wait for patients to bring up sexual dysfunction, a comparatively small number report having it; but when the question is asked specifically, reports always clock in at 30 per cent at least. It all makes the little, bouncing genital-less smiley faces in those Zoloft ads seem more than a little wicked.
Ben Goldacre, a doctor and Guardian columnist, lays out the stakes involved in drug-induced sexual dysfunction in his book Bad Science.
“I’m trying to phrase this as neutrally as possible,” Goldacre writes. “I really enjoy the sensation of orgasm. It’s important to me, and everything I experience in the world tells me that this sensation is important to other people too. Wars have been fought, essentially, for the sensation of orgasm.”
***
Nicole had taken Effexor for nearly a year, however, our topic of conversation that afternoon – about whether it affected her sexual function – was one that she had not even broached with the doctor that put her on the medication.
Audrey Bahrick, a psychologist at the University of Iowa, explains that the decision to take medication should be one of “informed consent.” Patients should have an understanding of the benefits and downsides of the medication, including the possibility that it’ll mess with your sex life.
“It almost sounds trivial,” says Bahrick. You might be prepared to cope with a little loss of libido. “But it can be much more. It can be really quite a pervasive change.”
Studies clearly show that patients will, far more often than not, fail to bring up sexual side effects unless specifically asked. This is especially true when patients have just 15 minutes with a general practitioner before being shoved out the door. (A game to play at McGill Health Services: get a doctor to prescribe you an SSRI, see if they bring up the birds and the bees.)
Prior to prescribing an SSRI, doctors need to suss out a “baseline” – or typical sexual function – with patients first, explains Bahrick. If you have a solid idea going into taking the medication of what your sexual function is like, it’s easier to know if the drug is taking something away.
Though Bahrick does not prescribe drugs, as a psychologist she is directly involved in patient’s treatment plans. She sees the 18 to 22 year olds that she works with as an especially vulnerable population, as their baseline of sexual function isn’t as firmly established as it is for adults.
Further, women’s sexuality risks being ignored: if a man cannot get an erection or stays hard for too long (one man I spoke to described “erections that last forever”), it seems to be a clear, easy-to-explain problem. When a women can’t reach orgasm, however, it may be harder to recognize that as an issue.
“We know a whole lot more about men’s experience. They’re a lot easier to study,” says Bahrick.
***
It turns out this is true in more ways than one. Anita Clayton, a psychiatrist at the University of Virginia who works with drug companies to study side effects of SSRIs, explains that it’s harder to get government funding to study female sexual dysfunction. “I think there’s a cultural and institutional bias against women and their sexuality, that it needs to be contained,” she says. “And I think that much of that influences the funding to do studies.” She cites abstinence-only education as another factor impeding a meaningful discourse on the subject.
Abstinence-only education isn’t good – this is true. But the problem is deeper than that. Its not just that sexual function is hard to study, or that it’s harder to study in women – it’s that sex is, even in some of the best of cultural conditions, defined in a male-centric and heterosexist way. It’s reduced to the male orgasm, the act of intercourse, a penis entering a vagina and depositing an amount of sperm. Women’s pleasure – which often stems from acts other than vaginal intercourse – is taken for granted or ignored altogether.
These complications apply to people like me and Nicole, too, who were not products of abstinence-only education – quite the opposite, in fact. Over the years, we’ve rented the movie All I Wanna Do from the now-bankrupt video store so many times that we might as well have been charged as responsible for wearing out the tape. In it, Kirsten Dunst goes to an all-girls boarding school, and fights the oppressive rule against wearing jewelry, and, most importantly, the one about not having male visitors. She and her cohorts skirmish with the nighttime chaperones, essentially, for the sake of getting laid.
Everything about our world told us that Dunst was right. We were taught that – should we somehow ever find ourselves apparrated to a conservative boarding school – the right to still have sex was one worth losing our dining hall privileges over. In grade five, volunteers from Planned Parenthood played the “penis game” with us, in which everyone shouted out words for genitalia at the top of their lungs, as though our yelling could hit a frequency that would shatter the playground stigmas. The school nurse had free condoms on hand, in case, it seemed, of an emergency.
In our liberal world of readily available condoms and birth control, we were free to have intercourse. But sex is brilliantly multifaceted – desire and dysfunction aren’t always easily identified. And yet what dominates the discourse is a binary language: yes or no, penetration or not. From nosy peers: “how many people have you slept with?”; from doctors, “are you sexually active?”
If there is an erection going into a vagina, according to this way of thinking, the system is functional – enough to count as active, enough to make another notch in the bedpost. The dysfunctions experienced by men can more clearly fall under this straight-and-narrow definition.
Bahrick mentions a female she treated who said that she was not concerned about sexual side effects – she had a boyfriend, but they were not having intercourse; sexual side effects didn’t have anything to do with her.
Female arousal is more complex, and hidden, both physiologically and culturally: women do not necessarily have orgasms with every act of intercourse, though the clitoris swells when aroused, it is out of sight.
While male cum featured – necessarily, it felt – in many of my teenage conversations with Nicole, female pleasure came up explicitly for the first time that summer afternoon. It was part of her sexual baseline that she hadn’t quite bothered to look into before.
In grade ten sex ed, the subject of female masturbation came up once. Later at track practice a friend asked me, “Does anyone do that?” hdgshfgshdfghdsgjsh
***
For Bahrick, the problem is scarier than just asking the right questions, or being sensitive to the fact that a patient might not yet have discovered their baseline of sexual function. Much of her work comes from the first-hand accounts of people on SSRIs, people who have been on them for longer than the standard eight-week trial that it takes to get the drug approved by the FDA. Her findings are drawn from both patients in her office, and members of a Yahoo discussion group called SSRIsex. There are things lurking here that are deeply sinister: accounts of people going on SSRIs, losing their sexual function and never getting it back.
The mainstream medical community has not accepted the notion of post SSRI sexual dysfunction – there is no research that proves it. It could turn out to be as invalid as the link between vaccines and cognitive diseases. But, unlike Jenny McCarthy’s choice cause, no research has been done to show for sure that there isn’t a link between post-treatment sexual dysfunction and SSRIs, either. This is the scary thing about these drugs – if there are long-term side effects, ones that extend beyond the eight-week trials, we’re currently testing them in situ, on millions of people.
“We need to talk about what we don’t know,” she continues. Post-SSRI sexual side effects are not accepted by the mainstream medical community. Still, in the past decade, studies on suicidal thoughts and SSRIs have shown that the twelve year-old’s death was likely not caused by the drug, and yet the drugs still carry warnings. Better to err on the safe side.
***
It is strange that a solution to happiness could rob us of sex. A drug called Viibryd hit the market in early 2011; the data, at glance, indicates that it might sidestep this paradox (can’t you feel that sentiment pumping through its name?). If you look at the drug insert material, rates of sexual dysfunction clock in around 2 per cent. The FDA approved the drug – but not the claim that it offers superior sexual function, as the study only compared rates of side effects in Viibryd to a placebo, not to another SSRI. In spite of its questionable accuracy, the 2 per cent figure was out: it made the media rounds, landing headlines on news websites from Salon to ABCNews.
The fact that patients are looking for a better SSRI, though, is a positive step: When Prozac first hit the market, studies that asked specifically about sexual side effects weren’t even being done. If you have a drug that really does reduce side effects, that would be a brilliant thing to market. “Yes, and if you have one that is going to be negative, you want to know that too, because it might negatively affect the treatment plan,” Clayton says earnestly.
She dismisses the claim that SSRIs can cause post-treatment sexual dysfunction – there are psychological factors to explain the post SSRI libido drop. “The number of these reports is so low. If that is the case, it’s just a coincidence,” she says, though quickly adding, “in my opinion.”
There is one more striking – and perhaps crucial – difference between the emphases of Clayton, who works hand in hand with big pharma, and Bahrick, who is a psychologist, and spends much of her time with patients. While Bahrick uses the language of “informed consent”, in her literature, Clayton uses the typical pharma language of “treatment compliance.”
“‘Treatment compliance’ is a term suggesting a more passive, less collaborative role of the patient and a more paternal role of the prescriber,” explains Bahrick. The term is out of favor with pyschologists, for this reason. “Yet the language of ‘compliance’ does still seem ever-present in the sexual side effects literature, i.e. – the side effects pose a risk to treatment compliance.” For Bahrick, a patient who sees sexual side effects as a reason to not take a drug has a valid point.
In high school, we poured over consensual sex for hours in the classroom, reading stories, running through hypothetical scenarios, like militia running though war theory. What we weren’t taught was about how to say yes or no to a drug, to a company; what violation of your self happens when you swallow a pill. What we weren’t taught is that we were entitled to explore a range of feeling, including feelings that that might take time to figure out.
I ask Clayton what she says when patients decline drugs because of side effects. “In those patients what are we going to do?” she replies, implying annoyance. “Shove it down their throats?”
***
It is winter break, 2011, and six months have passed since Nicole stopped taking medication. Though she sees a pyschiatrist regularly – and did make it through the bulk of her depression while on meds – she’s also started doing yoga and writing more in an effort to feel better.
One evening a few days before Christmas, we take the train downtown, watch a local band play a few songs at an Irish bar, and then wander out onto 12th street. It is our first time going out in Philly since we reached the legal drinking age. In a moment of abandon, we pop into a club called iCandy: a pocket of techno and rainbow strobe lights in the mild winter, encased in revolution-era brick. We take our seats on bar stools at a table for two, and a man wearing nothing but a santa hat and red briefs serves us rounds of twizzler-flavored test tube shots.
It’s one of those moments when I feel like I have wandered out of my own life and onto a movie set. I check to see that we’re still wearing the cardigans that we left the house in. We’re off script this time: happiness and pleasure are things that aren’t necessarily tied to a chemical or a sexual conquest. We’ve learned the lessons of Dunst characters – the ones who risk it all for the act of sex under its strictest definition – and now we’re leaving them behind.
When Nicole weaned herself off the anti-depressants, she told me about how she opened up each individual plastic pill and dumped out the hundreds of tiny white beads that contained the drug. First, four every day, then, a week later, eight, and so on, until there were none left to spill out.
Now, in the bar, a small pile of glassware accumulates in front of us, as we become drunker in fifty-milliliter doses of alcohol and syrup. Nicole leans forward.
“It happened,” she says, smiling and shrugging at the same time. “I had one.”

*Name has been changed
http://www.mcgilldaily.com/2012/02/killing-your-sex-life/

segunda-feira, 30 de janeiro de 2012

Fingir en la cama para mantener a la pareja

JUEVES 12 DE ENERO DE 2012

Científicos estadounidenses de las Universidades de Columbia y de Oakland han llevado a cabo una investigación que persigue conocer las razones por las que un elevado porcentaje de mujeres finge sus orgasmos. Según este ensayo, en el que han participado 453 mujeres con relaciones de al menos 32 meses de duración, y cuyos resultados han sido publicados en “Archives of Sexual Behaviour”, hasta un 60 % de las féminas finge en sus relaciones con el objetivo de retener a sus parejas.

Para los investigadores, “los resultados apoyan la hipótesis de que aquellas mujeres que exageran en la cama lo hacen como una forma de evitar el abandono y prevenir la infidelidad”, al tiempo que recalcan que “aquéllas con más tendencia a fingir son las que más utilizan otras estrategias para 'retener' a sus parejas”.

En cualquier caso, este comportamiento conlleva una carga de culpabilidad para más de la mitad de las mujeres que actúan así. Ellas reconocen que “mienten porque creen que es importante para la satisfacción del otro”. También lo hacen para aumentar el ego de su pareja, elevar la emoción sexual y prevenir la infidelidad.

Aunque los propios autores del estudio son conscientes de sus limitaciones, se trata del primero que relaciona “el orgasmo fingido y la necesidad femenina de mantener cerca a su pareja. Este tipo de actitud se emplea como forma de manipulación del hombre”. Y, afirman que “en un futuro se deberían llevar a cabo más investigaciones sobre la rentabilidad del orgasmo femenino real o simulado”, para lo que su trabajo puede ser un punto de partida.

http://fundacionsexpol.blogspot.com/2012/01/fingir-en-la-cama-para-mantener-la.html?utm_source=Bolet%C3%ADn+de+Fundaci%C3%B3n+Sexpol&utm_campaign=d7dec33657-Boletin_actualidad_final_enero1_29_2012&utm_medium=email

sábado, 21 de janeiro de 2012

Hypnotist given spell: anorgasmia 'research' slated

HEALTH

20 JAN 12 @ 12:00AM BY PETER BODKIN

A FORMER Balgowlah hypnotherapist has been banned from practising for two years after intimately massaging female clients as part of an unauthorised “research project” into “anorgasmia”.

Joe Levonian, the owner and operator of Hypnotic Solutions, was recently barred from providing any hypnotic treatments or therapy to treat sexual dysfunction for two years after an investigation from the NSW Health Care Complaints Commission.

The commission found the self-proclaimed “covert psychology” expert, who details qualifications in hypnosis and hypnotherapy from both Australia and the UK, had promoted successful treatment of anorgasmia, or the inability to reach sexual climax, despite carrying no experience in the field.

Early last year, two clients consented to join Mr Levonian’s “research”, which would involve sensual and sexual massage, but one refused him permission to touch her intimately.

The woman said the hypnotist persuaded her to allow him to touch her genitals, although he told the commission she had changed her consent after watching him work on the other client.

Mr Levonian removed his trousers during the massage and the woman said she saw him stripped down to his boxer shorts after feeling something silky touching her.

But the hypnotist told the commission he took off his trousers because the room was hot and he was wearing football shorts underneath.

He said he had hypnotised the women prior to the massage, but both testified they were not.

The commission also found Mr Levonian entered into an inappropriate sexual relationship with another client, who contacted the hypnotist about his “introductory quit-smoking courses”.

He admitted to having “crossed the professional boundary” in having sex with the client after four sessions, but did not report the incident to the Australian Hypnotherapists’ Association as promised because he “needed the money” from his practice.

The Hypnotic Solutions website has been taken down and Mr Levonian’s online, professional profile makes no reference to the business or any hypnotherapy practice.

His profile now lists his job as a “covert-psychology trainer” with Covert Psychology Australia, whose website said it would run training courses on how advertising and media use “coverty (sic) psychology strategies to influence our thinking and behaviour”.

In a statement to the Manly Daily yesterday, Mr Levonian’s solicitor said he had been suffering from “severe reactive depression as a side-effect of medication for treatment of chronic myeloid leukaemia” at the time of the incidents.

“He is extremely remorseful for his temporary errors of judgment during the beginning of 2011,” the statement said.

“He has subsequently commenced medical treatment and ongoing psychological counselling.”

http://manly-daily.whereilive.com.au/news/story/hypnotist-given-spell/

La anorgasmia es un padecimiento que se puede tratar

Obtén un final feliz, la anorgasmia se puede tratar pero primero que hay que identificar ¿Tu la padeces?

Publicado: Viernes, 30 de Diciembre del 2011, a las 12:34 hrs.

Por: Redacción

Villahermosa, Tabasco

La anorgasmia se considera la principal enfermedad sexual de las mujeres. Se trata de la incapacidad para disfrutar de la relación íntima y según encuestas aplicadas por instituciones mexicanas., seis de cada diez mujeres la padecen. Se trata de un problema de salud pública que no mata, por lo tanto no es observado, además, las mujeres pocas veces reconocen no disfrutar la relación, por lo que nadie lo percibe.

La incapacidad de una mujer para disfrutar de la relación sexual y llegar al clímax se puede presentar sin importar sus preferencias sexuales. Según la opinión de la sexóloga Patricia Martínez Jaimes "puede ser incluso en una relación lésbica, heterosexual, en cualquier tipo de actividad incluyendo la masturbación".

La especialista señala que la causa más frecuente es la sociocultural, "a las mujeres se les educa y se les presiona para que no disfruten de la actividad sexual y no hablo de los tiempos de las abuelas, actualmente hay adolescentes con este problema, porque fueron educadas por mujeres que aún vivieron en una generación donde la fémina no tenía derecho a disfrutar o a reclamar su derecho a sexualidad".

Disfruta del sexo Como mujer, es importante tener en cuenta que lo más importante es la calidad de vida como seres humanos, como mujeres o pareja, por lo que la sexóloga recomienda que primero hay que darse cuenta de si lo que vive como pareja lo disfruta, de lo contrario, hay que hacer un análisis desde cuando o si alguna vez disfrutó. Señala que después se debe buscar resolverlo sola y sino buscar ayuda.

"Es importante tener en cuenta que la comunicación con la pareja es de mucha ayuda". Señala además que la masturbación puede servir como una manera de conocer más tu cuerpo "si yo no conoces tu cuerpo como le puedes decir a alguien más como disfrutas, primero debes conocer tu cuerpo y saber que te gusta y que no, pueden sentarse con su pareja y decirle que les hace disfrutar y cómo llegar a la satisfacción sexual de ambos".

Los dos tipos Según señaló la experta existen dos tipo de anorgasmia, la primaria se trata de cuando nunca ha sentido placer ni por coito, ni masturbación, ni con juguete sexual, ni por la estimulación de su pareja, es decir una incapacidad total y continua de llegar al orgasmo.

Cuando la mujer ya ha experimentado orgasmos, pero deja de presentarlos se habla de anorgasmia secundaria, la cual puede responder a cambios motivacionales o ciertas inquietudes como un embarazo, la menstruación, ser madres o depresión post parto.

40 por ciento de la población femenina lo padece 95 por ciento de los casos tiene su origen psicológico 80 por ciento de las anorgasmias primarias se resuelven con masturbación dirigida.

*La masturbación puede servir como una manera de conocer más tu cuerpo.

*Intenta resolverlo con la comunicación y conociendo tu cuerpo, si no, busca ayuda. Globos Es una de las disfunciones sexuales más comunes en la mujer.

En el hombre Es menos frecuente y difícilmente diagnosticada, ya que se oculta tras el prejuicio erróneo de que la eyaculación es un orgasmo.

http://www.tabascohoy.com/noticia.php?id_nota=230422

Anorgasmia: Cuando los condicionantes sociales irrumpen en la alcoba

09/01/2012 | Opinión L

La inhibición recurrente y persistente del orgasmo es manifestada por su ausencia tras una fase de excitación normal. Es, junto con la falta de deseo, una de las disfunciones sexuales más comunes de la mujer, aunquetambién puede haber anorgasmia en el hombre. Cómo “desprenderse” de mandatos culturales y religiosos

El orgasmo puede definirse como una descarga de tensión física acompañada de una intensa sensación de placer (clímax). En el orgasmo femenino, el área localizada de vasodilatación vulvar y vaginal, se contrae con fuerza y a intervalos regulares. La duración y el número de contracciones varían de una mujer a otra y en cada relación sexual.

El clítoris es el órgano que está preparado fisiológicamente (por la cantidad de sangre y sensibilidad nerviosa) para desencadenar la respuesta orgásmica, por lo tanto, su estimulación por el coito, manual, vibradores, etc., o el simple roce, genera sensaciones placenteras.

En el hombre la respuesta orgásmica consiste en dos fases, en la primera se contraen los músculos internos que llevan el líquido seminal y prostático hacia la uretra posterior (fase de emisión), inmediatamente se percibe que el orgasmo es inevitable, expulsando el semen por el orificio uretral (fase eyaculatoria) con una intensa sensación de placer.

El orgasmo es una respuesta fisiológica, emocional y social: une el cuerpo a la capacidad de gozar y de compartir la experiencia sexual.

Sin embargo, los condicionantes socioculturales fueron causa de muchas limitaciones a la hora de hacer el amor. La anorgasmia o falta de orgasmo femenino se define como la ausencia persistente o recurrente tras una fase de excitación sexual o lubricación genital normal.

A la hora de evaluar la inhibición de la respuesta orgásmica se debe tener en cuenta que las mujeres presentan una gran variabilidad en el tipo y en la intensidad de estimulación para desencadenar el orgasmo. Es fundamental saber si la mujer está tomando fármacos, ejemplo, antidepresivos, padece de patologías orgánicas (diabetes, enfermedades neurológicas, etc.), la experiencia sexual previa, la relación que la mujer tiene con su cuerpo y un aspecto fundamental: la estimulación que recibe.

Aunque se considere que la anorgasmia puede aparecer por una suma de factores, los condicionantes culturales y religiosos inciden en el cuerpo y la psiquis femenina. Algunas asimilaron a su favor los cambios en los patrones de género, logrando autonomía, decisión, un verdadero rescate de los cuerpos; otras quedaron rezagadas, con la convicción de que acceder al goce sexual es propio de mujeres osadas y liberadas; otras creen que deben complacer al hombre más que a sus deseos; y finalmente, el grupo de las más ortodoxas, defiende la idea del sexo como procreación.

Un cuerpo vedado a las experiencias de relajación y disfrute responde más a la normatividad social que a deseos más sinceros, profundos, pasibles de ser reprimidos.

El hombre naturalizó la idea de que todo encuentro sexual es coito con penetración. Si él insiste en penetrar (su objetivo prioritario) es porque antes fue “penetrado” por la pauta social imperante, aquella que exalta la virilidad de todo macho potente, preparado para probar su orgullo cada vez que se acopla. Si las hembras pierden el orgasmo por la falta de conexión con sus sensaciones, también lo pierden cuando estos machos se aprestan a penetrarlas con el mínimo estímulo. Y a ellos, el apuro, la ansiedad, les juega la mala pasada de no poder controlar la eyaculación y/o ver cómo sus penes se vuelven fláccidos.

Los problemas sexuales más frecuentes aparecen por:

* Información errónea, mitos, ignorancia, ideas rígidas, con respecto a la interacción sexual y social.

* Culpa y ansiedad inconscientes relacionadas con el sexo.

* Ansiedad o apuro por consumar el acto.

* Escaso registro del cuerpo y las sensaciones que provienen de él.

* Falta de comunicación en la pareja acerca de sus deseos, preferencias, fantasías, emociones, etc.

Por: Walter Ghedin, médico psiquiatra y sexólogo

http://www.diariovictoria.com.ar/2012/01/anorgasmia-cuando-los-condicionantes-sociales-irrumpen-en-la-alcoba/

terça-feira, 10 de janeiro de 2012

Los problemas sexuales de algunos vascos y vascas en el 2011

Ya se ha acabado el 2011, llevamos 10 días del 2012 y deseamos y os desemos que sea un año bueno a todos los niveles, sobre todo en el personal, a nivel de pareja… aunque por lo que predicen los expertos en el terreno económico el panorama se presenta bastante negro y nada halagüeño. Hay que aguantar y sobrevivir como sea. A ver si se equivocan y empezamos a ver la luz en esta larga crisis que venimos padeciendo.

Pues bien, estando a comienzos de año y haciendo análisis de lo que ha sido el año 2011 en nuestra consulta en cuanto a problemática sexual, hemos visto que el problema más consultado por los vascos ha sido la eyaculación precoz. Ya sabéis, ésta se da cuando el chico no puede aguantarse, no puede decidir el momento de eyacular porque le viene “inesperadamente”, “penetro y en dos o tres movimientos se acabó”. La media de edad de los chicos que han consultado ha sido de entre 28 y 40 años, todos ellos con pareja y con un denominador común: “tengo que hacer algo para controlar porque ya estoy desesperado y mi pareja está bastante cansada de que sea tan rapidillo”.

A la eyaculación precoz le ha seguido la disfunción eréctil, el no poder conseguir una suficiente erección para penetrar o mantener una erección una vez que está penetrando. Los vascos que han consultado por este motivo están entre los 35 y el de más edad ha sido uno de 73 años.

En cuanto a los problemas femeninos, el motivo más consultado por las vascas ha sido la anorgasmia. Mujeres que no han tenido nunca un orgasmo ni de forma individual ni en pareja. Normalmente son chicas que llegan hasta un punto muy alto de excitación, pero que son incapaces de pasar esa barrera. Vienen muy ansiosas y preguntándose si algún día van a poder sentir lo que es un orgasmo. Rebelarse ante esa situación es ya un buen paso y hay que luchar contra esos impedimentos que no te dejan adentrarte en el mundo del orgasmo. Las edades de estas mujeres va desde los 24, chicas que aunque muy jóvenes no aceptan el no poder disfrutar y quieren saber el porqué y poner remedio, como dicen ellas: “hago lo que sea con tal de poderlo conseguir, aunque sólo sea por una vez”, hasta los 58, donde ya hay una gran frustración y te dicen: “ya he perdido bastante tiempo y quiero ver si puedo o no, pero por lo menos intentarlo”. Algunas de ellas son mujeres separadas que han vuelto a enamorarse, están de nuevo ilusionadas, con el deseo a flor de piel y quieren vivir plenamente su sexualidad.

El segundo puesto lo ocupa la falta de deseo, como os hemos dicho en muchas ocasiones, problema muy habitual ya que el deseo sexual se ve influido, en la mujer, por lo más mínimo. Y claro, la mujer sufre la falta de deseo pero quien está a su lado,… no lo pasa nada bien, ya que no poder satisfacer tu deseo, ni sentirte deseado, ni nada de nada,… pues es un problema que desequilibra bastante a la pareja. Las edades de las afectadas aquí varían bastante y están de los 30 y pocos hasta los 50 y muchos.

También siguen viniendo chicas jóvenes de entre 30 y 37 años con problemas de vaginismo, contracción involuntaria de los músculos vaginales que impiden la penetración ya sea de dedos o del pene. Y que ven que el tiempo para ser madres se va agotando

Y un problema que nunca falta, tanto en ellos y ellas es el tema de la infidelidad. El porcentaje de consultas es muy alto. Así eso de que en Euskadi no se liga,… hay que gente que por partida doble o incluso triplete al mismo tiempo. Hay de todo: quienes consultan porque han pillado a su pareja y están en el momento de “¿qué hago?, ¿le dejo, no le dejo?”; quienes están en medio de la vorágine, llevando doble vida y sin poder decidir qué hacer en su vida: abandonar a su pareja y lanzarse como dice una “al vacío, sin paracaídas” o cortar con esa aventura que está llena de momentos de pasión, donde la adrenalina te hace vivir momentos maravillosos, pero que dudas de que eso continúe cuando ya no sea algo prohibido y te arrepientas por haberlo echado todo por la borda.

También han acudido personas con adicción al cibersexo, un sexo tan fácil, tan gratificante para ellos, y tan poco exigente. Este tiempo invertido en el cibersexo les ha supuesto una dejación de sus obligaciones, “abandono” de sus parejas,…

Veremos lo que nos trae el 2012…

http://blogs.elcorreo.com/estovadesexo/2012/01/10/los-problemas-sexuales-de-algunos-vascos-y-vascas-en-el-2011/

Anorgasmia: Cuando los condicionantes sociales irrumpen en la alcoba

09/01/2012 | Opinión Le

El orgasmo es una respuesta fisiológica, emocional y social: une el cuerpo a la capacidad de gozar y de compartir la experiencia sexual.

Un cuerpo vedado a las experiencias de relajación y disfrute responde más a la normatividad social que a deseos más sinceros, profundos, pasibles de ser reprimidos.

Los problemas sexuales más frecuentes aparecen por:

* Información errónea, mitos, ignorancia, ideas rígidas, con respecto a la interacción sexual y social.

* Culpa y ansiedad inconscientes relacionadas con el sexo.

* Ansiedad o apuro por consumar el acto.

* Escaso registro del cuerpo y las sensaciones que provienen de él.

* Falta de comunicación en la pareja acerca de sus deseos, preferencias, fantasías, emociones, etc.

Por: Walter Ghedin, médico psiquiatra y sexólogo

http://www.diariovictoria.com.ar/2012/01/anorgasmia-cuando-los-condicionantes-sociales-irrumpen-en-la-alcoba/

segunda-feira, 2 de janeiro de 2012

Fingir na cama é prova de amor

Thiago Perin 15 de julho de 2010

Foi bom pra você?

70% das mulheres já fingiu orgasmo. E 25% dos homens também (!). Mas só 50% deles sabe identificar quando ela está fingindo.

De tudo isso, na verdade, já se sabia desde 2000, quando pesquisadores ingleses entrevistaram 16 mil adultos sexualmente ativos para traçar um panorama da vida sexual do povão de lá – em especial, sobre o quanto eles se dispunham a fingir orgasmos na hora H.

Mas aí o economista Hugo M. Mialon, da Universidade de Emory, em Atlanta (EUA), parou para analisar esses dados e chegou a conclusões inéditas: (1) se você acha que o parceiro vai conseguir perceber que seu êxtase é de mentira, dificilmente vai tentar fingir; (2) homens de 30 anos fingem mais do que os de 20; (3) mulheres de 20 anos fingem mais do que as de 30; (4) ambos os sexos fingem mais após os 50; e (5) quanto mais você ama o parceiro, maior a probabilidade de fingir o orgasmo.

O que reverte a lógica e mostra que ser enganado na hora dos finalmentes pode ser uma coisa bem boa, né? Pensa aí: se a pessoa parece estar se divertindo bastante, ou você é muito bom de cama ou ela te ama o suficiente para fazer todo um teatro. Ô beleza!

http://super.abril.com.br/blogs/cienciamaluca/fingir-na-cama-e-prova-de-amor/#.TwIppfo8PHc.facebook

sábado, 10 de dezembro de 2011

What To Do If Your Woman Is Faking Orgasms?

Updated on Friday, November 25, 2011, 10:40

What To Do If Your Woman Is Faking Orgasms?

It is a fact that some women experience difficulties reaching orgasm. Many feel embarrassed, especially because nowadays there is so much talk of female orgasms and multiple orgasms.

Why do women fake orgasms?

Women who have troubles having orgasms think they are “weird”. They often hide their anorgasmia from their partner, either because they believe something is wrong with them or because they don’t want to hurt him. Everyone is familiar with the stories about a man’s ego. It is so fragile… Even a loving partner may understand his inability to satisfy his partner as a “humiliation”. But no need to worry- he will soon consider it a challenge and will experience a sincere desire to satisfy his lover. So dear ladies, don’t fake orgasms!
“She has been faking orgasms for years!”

We often hear a woman saying that she’s never experienced an orgasm in the long years of her relationship and that she’s managed to fool her partner completely by faking orgasms. When women reveal such facts men feel deceived. They can’t understand their partner, who probably did it out of love or was afraid and had no intention of being disrespectful. Of course, we don’t support pretense, especially in an intimate love relationship, which should be based on honesty. But we advise all men who have to face the cruel reality of faked orgasms not to fall into the trap of wounded pride. You should remember that women are often completely content with other “phases” of sexual intercourse: kissing, foreplay and cuddling. So the fact that they don’t have an orgasm every time doesn’t present such a problem and they sometimes fake it only to satisfy their partners.
What to do next?

So if your woman faked orgasms you have no good reason to leave her. What you should do is to love her even more and help her experience a true orgasm. Ignore the pressure- sex isn’t a wild race to the top. The more you expect to have an orgasm, the harder it is to achieve it. If there is no other way, you can help her find a therapist. But above all, don’t be suspicious because she faked orgasms. She is undoubtedly honest when it comes to other things. And try to overcome your hurt pride. Loving her will make you happier than restoring your pride by leaving her.

Intimatemedicine.com

http://zeenews.india.com/entertainment/redhot/what-to-do-if-your-woman-is-faking-orgasms_100903.htm